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- Nov 07, 2020
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- Marriage
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- Nov 07, 2020
I'm also interested in the modern suggestion that you can have a combination of love and sex in a marriage - which no previous society has ever believed.
- I Am
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- Nov 07, 2020
I am conscious of trying to stretch the boundaries of non-fiction writing. It's always surprised me how little attention many non-fiction writers pay to the formal aspects of their work.
- Believe
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- Nov 07, 2020
I passionately believe that's it's not just what you say that counts, it's also how you say it - that the success of your argument critically depends on your manner of presenting it.
- Personal
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- Nov 07, 2020
I was uncomfortable writing fiction. My love was the personal essay, rather than the novel.
- Good
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- Nov 07, 2020
It's clear to me that there is no good reason for many philosophy books to sound as complicated as they do.
- Hegel
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- Nov 07, 2020
Kant and Hegel are interesting thinkers. But I am happy to insist that they are also terrible writers.
- Care
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- Nov 07, 2020
Pick up any newspaper or magazine, open the TV, and you'll be bombarded with suggestions of how to have a successful life. Some of these suggestions are deeply unhelpful to our own projects and priorities - and we should take care.
- Political
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- Nov 07, 2020
Status anxiety definitely exists at a political level. Many Iraqis were annoyed with the US essentially for reasons of status: for not showing them respect, for humiliating them.
- People
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- Nov 07, 2020
We are certainly influenced by role models, and if we are surrounded by images of beautiful rich people, we will start to think that to be beautiful and rich is very important - just as in the Middle Ages, people were surrounded by images of religious piety.
- Look
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- Nov 07, 2020
We may seek a fortune for no greater reason than to secure the respect and attention of people who would otherwise look straight through us.
- Most
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- Nov 07, 2020
Booksellers are the most valuable destination for the lonely, given the numbers of books that were written because authors couldn't find anyone to talk to.
- Ideas
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- Nov 07, 2020
I assemble my ideas in pieces on a computer file, then gradually find a place for them on a piece of scaffolding I erect.
- Am
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- Nov 07, 2020
I am always anxious.
- Me
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- Nov 07, 2020
All tours are filled with humiliation. My publisher once hired a private jet to fly me to a venue where 1,000 people were waiting. It almost bankrupted him.
- Ever
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- Nov 07, 2020
Never, ever become a writer. It's a nightmare.
- Funny
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- Nov 07, 2020
I was foreign and Jewish, with a funny name, and was very small and hated sport, a real problem at an English prep school. So the way to get round it was to become the school joker, which I did quite effectively - I was always fooling around to make the people who would otherwise dump me in the loo laugh.
- Place
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- Nov 07, 2020
My writing always came out of a very personal place, out of an attempt to stay sane.
- Living
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- Nov 07, 2020
I learnt to stop fantasising about the perfect job or the perfect relationship because that can actually be an excuse for not living.
- People
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- Nov 07, 2020
I think people want to get married to end their emotional uncertainty. In a way, they want to end powerful feelings, or certainly the negative ones.
- Getting
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- Nov 07, 2020
I am not a foodie, thank goodness. I will eat pretty much anything. A lot of my friends are getting incredibly fussy about food and I see it as a bit of an affliction.
- Church
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- Nov 07, 2020
I went to church and couldn't swallow it. The music was nice but I don't belong there.
- Long
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- Nov 07, 2020
When work is not going well, it's useful to remember that our identities stretch beyond what is on the business card, that we were people long before we became workers - and will continue to be human once we have put our tools down forever.
- Chaos
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- Nov 07, 2020
Work is a way of bringing order to chaos, and there's a basic satisfaction in seeing that we are able to make something a little more coherent by the end of the day.
- Me
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- Nov 07, 2020
Many moments in religion seem attractive to me even though I can't believe in any of it.
- Like
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- Nov 07, 2020
When I see someone like Richard Dawkins, I see my father. I grew up with that. I'm basically the child of Richard Dawkins.
- Love
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- Nov 07, 2020
I love the idea of a university as away from capitalist values, where people can do things that don't immediately have to pay their way. It's like a monastery in a way, and that beautiful refuge has been destroyed by dogma about what this stuff is for.
- Arrogance
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- Nov 07, 2020
The arrogance that says analysing the relationship between reasons and causes is more important than writing a philosophy of shyness or sadness or friendship drives me nuts. I can't accept that.
- Know
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- Nov 07, 2020
I know a lot about writing, but I don't know much about how other industries work. I've tried to use my naivety to my advantage.
- Hate
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- Nov 07, 2020
It's very hard to respect people on holiday - everybody looks so silly at the beach, it makes you hate humanity - but when you see people at their work they elicit respect, whether it's a mechanic, a stonemason or an accountant.
- Gift
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- Nov 07, 2020
It's almost a blessing when we meet people who naturally want to do the sort of things that are in high demand in society. What a gift to do that, as opposed to other people who would say, 'I want to be a novelist but actually I have to be an accountant.'
- Feel
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- Nov 07, 2020
Virtue is its own reward. We only invented concepts like heaven and hell to describe how we feel. We don't feel good doing bad and it's nice to help someone.
- Depending
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- Nov 07, 2020
On paper, being good sounds great but a lot depends on the atmosphere of the workplace or community we live in. We tend to become good or bad depending on the cues sent out within a particular space.
- Keep
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- Nov 07, 2020
I keep a picture of my beloved children close by. Also, water and plenty of pads and pens.
- Myself
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- Nov 07, 2020
I waste most of the day, then finally start to write around 3 P.M., totally disgusted with myself for my wasteful nature.
- Mind
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- Nov 07, 2020
There are people who say, 'Oh this guy is quite thick.' I think the reason is that, increasingly, I don't mind being simple in terms of literary expression. Others say, 'No, no, no. He went to Cambridge. He got a good degree. He must be Einstein.'
- Feel
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- Nov 07, 2020
I always feel that I am writing for somebody who is bright but impatient. Someone who doesn't have unlimited time. That is my sense of the reader. So I have got to get to the point.
- Food
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- Nov 07, 2020
What bothers me is that there is so much emphasis on food, rather than gathering and meeting - so that there is all this effort in creating the right food, whereas the food is only a small part of whether the encounter is successful or not.
- More
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- Nov 07, 2020
There are few more effective ways to promote tolerance between suspicious neighbours than to force them to eat supper together.
- People
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- Nov 07, 2020
A city like London is sociable in a sense that there are people gathering in bars and restaurants, concerts and lectures. Yet you can partake of all these experiences and never say hello to anyone new. And one of the things that all religions do is take groups of strangers into a space and say it is OK to talk to each other.
- Like
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- Nov 07, 2020
When I'm writing, I write all day. Other days, I sit around thinking. Or I run around from one meeting to another, out in the world. It varies, and I like that.
- Communication
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- Nov 07, 2020
I feel that the great challenge of our time is the communication of ideas.
- Heart
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- Nov 07, 2020
I've had my successes and failures. I know many academics in my field loathe me. I've come to loathe them back, as it seems only polite to do so. But at heart it's absurd; we should band together against the big common enemies.
- Feeling
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- Nov 07, 2020
My greatest joy comes from creativity: from feeling that I have been able to identify a certain aspect of human nature and crystallise a phenomenon in words.
- Hate
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- Nov 07, 2020
As for despair, it comes about when I have been a fool and hate myself and despair of my personality. I am prone to gloom, but not depression as such.
- Parents
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- Nov 07, 2020
I was a very un-literary child, which might reassure parents with kids who don't read.
- Funny
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- Nov 07, 2020
Le Corbusier is an outstanding writer. His ideas achieved their impact in large measure because he could write so convincingly. His style is utterly clear, brusque, funny and polemical in the best way.
- Love Is
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- Nov 07, 2020
The philosophy I love is very selective. It is really just the bit that is involved in a search for wisdom, and this means a short roll call of names; Socrates, Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, Epicurus, Montaigne, Schopenhauer, Nietzsche.
- Hand
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- Nov 07, 2020
There is militaristic-hegemonic-plutocratic side of the U.S. which is getting out of hand and threatens to corrupt the whole republic. I remain a deeply concerned, committed admirer, but also a very worried one.
- May
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- Nov 07, 2020
There may be significant things to learn about people by looking at what annoys them most.
- I Am
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- Nov 07, 2020
I am a very aesthetic person.
- I Think
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- Nov 07, 2020
I think I have grown impatient with just being a writer.
- Change
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- Nov 07, 2020
I like working with people. I believe change can only come through collaboration.
- May
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- Nov 07, 2020
Learning to give up on perfection may be just about the most romantic move any of us could make.
- Me
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- Nov 07, 2020
We don't sulk with everybody. We limit our sulks to a very particular person: the person who's supposed to love us and understand us. And we make this equation that if you love me, you're supposed to understand me even if I don't explain what's wrong.
- Criticise
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- Nov 07, 2020
The thing is that love gives us a ringside seat on somebody else's flaws, so of course you're gonna spot some things that kinda need to be mentioned. But often the romantic view is to say, 'If you loved me, you wouldn't criticise me.' Actually, true love is often about trying to teach someone how to be the best version of themselves.
- Good
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- Nov 07, 2020
Laughter is an important part of a good relationship. It's an immense achievement when you can move from your thinking that your partner is merely an idiot to thinking that they are that wonderfully complex thing called a loveable idiot. And often that means having a little bit of a sense of humour about their flaws.
- Home
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- Nov 07, 2020
I remember going to university, and the people who'd left home for the first time looked at the food and were horrified. Whereas, my view was that if it was vaguely edible, then it's fine.
- Me
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- Nov 07, 2020
There's a certain kind of insular, old-fashioned, upper-class Britishness that gives me the spooks. I am sure that comes from a boarding-school trauma.
- Love Is
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- Nov 07, 2020
Love is something that we need to learn.
- Love
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- Nov 07, 2020
Many of our ideas of what love is comes from stories... these are extremely powerful shapers of our attitudes towards love, and I think that, in some ways, often we've got the wrong story.
- People
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- Nov 07, 2020
Among adults, we can admit that of course, characters are creations. They aren't real people.
- Jealousy
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- Nov 07, 2020
There's a constant tension between the excitement of new people and security with one person. If you go with excitement, you create chaos; you hurt people. There's jealousy, and it gets very messy. If you have security, it can be boring, and you die inside because of all the opportunities missed.
- Myself
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- Nov 07, 2020
I think of myself as quite a shy person. But when I'm curious about something, I'll go quite far to satisfy my curiosity.
- Incredibly
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- Nov 07, 2020
I was an incredibly lonely, very alienated teenager.
- Family
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- Nov 07, 2020
I like the values associated with a medical family - common sense, being practical but also thoughtful.
- Gray
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- Nov 07, 2020
A gray V-neck pullover from Gap. I have 30 of them.
- Office
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- Nov 07, 2020
My office. It's drab and boring but quiet.
- Best
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- Nov 07, 2020
The best cure for one's bad tendencies is to see them fully developed in someone else.
- Family
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- Nov 07, 2020
Sometimes my biography is interpreted as the upbringing of a French aristocrat. It was very, very different. We were a family of mercantile, immigrant Jews.
- Father
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- Nov 07, 2020
I was told by my father nine times a day that you were going to get a job the minute you finish your studies.
- Help
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- Nov 07, 2020
Advertising is - quite often - alive to our real needs. It's just the products on offer might not be the things that will help us satisfy them.
- Help
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- Nov 07, 2020
The solution as consumers is - perhaps surprisingly - to take adverts very, very seriously. We should ask ourselves what it is that we find lovely in them - the visions of friendship, togetherness, repose, or whatever. And then consider what would actually help us find these qualities in our lives.
- People
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- Nov 07, 2020
Therapy and counseling can do wonderful things for people. But they have emerged so far as what are sometimes called 'cottage industries' - that is, as individuals or small groups offering generally quite expensive services to a few clients.
- Challenge
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- Nov 07, 2020
The central task for a business is to make a profit. The challenge is to make a profit by doing things which are genuinely good for people and good for societies.
- Hurt
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- Nov 07, 2020
Most of the time, we make discoveries about how difficult people are at the moment when the difficulties have actually hurt us; therefore, we are not likely to be forgiving or sympathetic.
- Feeling
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- Nov 07, 2020
In the early days of love sometimes, you will report an ecstatic feeling you have met someone who seems to understand you without you needing to speak.
- Feelings
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- Nov 07, 2020
If you are pro love, you have to be a little bit disloyal to the romantic feelings that propel you in the early days.
- Myself
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- Nov 07, 2020
I tell my children what I think myself: That religion is not necessarily convincing, but it is still interesting and not to be laughed at or denigrated.
- Good Ideas
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- Nov 07, 2020
I see religion as a storehouse of lots of really good ideas that a secular world should look at, raid, and learn from.
- Heart
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- Nov 07, 2020
The claims I'm making for art are simply the claims that we naturally make around music or around poetry. We're much more relaxed around those art forms. We're willing to ask, 'How could this find a place in my heart?'
- Long
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- Nov 07, 2020
My theory is that many of the things that move us are things we long for but find hard to do.
- End Of The Day
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- Nov 07, 2020
Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere - and I really don't get on with machismo. I'm interested in sensitivity and weakness and fear and anxiety because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that's what we are.
- Nov 07, 2020
Some of the reason why we marry the wrong people is that we don't really understand ourselves.
- People
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- Nov 07, 2020
Sometimes I say to people, 'Do you think you're easy to live with?' People who are single. And the ones who say, 'Yeah, yeah, I'm pretty easy to live with; it's just a question of finding the right person,' massive alarm bell rings in my mind.
- Life
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- Nov 07, 2020
You will often be in despair. You will sometimes think it's the worst decision in your life. That's fine. That's not a sign your marriage has gone wrong. It's a sign that it's normal; it's on track. And many of the hopes that took you into the marriage will have to die in order for the marriage to continue.
- Death
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- Nov 07, 2020