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- Name
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- Nov 07, 2020
Parents of all girls must simultaneously explain overt and covert sexism, name it whenever they see it, and teach their daughters to do the same.
- Doors
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- Nov 07, 2020
Despite girls' sparkling resumes - including rates of college enrollment and high school grades that outstrip boys - sexism is a barrier that still leaves girls ambivalent about power. Opening doors has not amounted to ambition to lead for many of them, even those with options, networks, and resources.
- Parents
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- Nov 07, 2020
Girlhood is often marred by schoolgirl cruelty, a grim rite of passage in which parents sometimes cruelly collude. Mothers and fathers must take a stand against petty or protracted hostility between girls.
- Great
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- Nov 07, 2020
If the Internet has been called a great democratizer, perhaps what social media has done is let anyone enter the beauty pageant. Teens can cover up pimples, whiten teeth, and even airbrush with the swipe of a finger, curating their own image to become prettier, thinner, and hotter.
- Mother
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- Nov 07, 2020
What teens share online is dwarfed by what they consume. Pre-Internet, you had to hoof it to the grocery store to find a magazine with celebrity bodies - or at least filch your mother's copy from the bathroom. Now the pictures are as endless as they are available.
- Fitness
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- Nov 07, 2020
The meteoric rise of the 'wellness' industry online has launched an entire industry of fitness celebrities on social media. Millions of followers embrace their regimens for diet and exercise, but increasingly, the drive for 'wellness' and 'clean eating' has become stealthy cover for more dieting and deprivation.
- Pain
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- Nov 07, 2020
There are many ways to be the odd girl out. Your pain can brief or lasting, visible to all or none, with one or many. One of the longest, quietest ways to be the odd girl out is to be friends with two girls who are closer to each other than to you.
- Friendship
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- Nov 07, 2020
When girls can be honest with each other, they can make mistakes on their own terms and discover through experience - and not through knee-jerk adult intervention - what a healthy friendship should look like.
- Fight
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- Nov 07, 2020
In the age of girl power, we're loath to send a message of surrender to our girls. To the contrary: we've doubled down on giving them permission to speak up and fight for their rights. This is a good thing.
- Perfect
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- Nov 07, 2020
Reacting to every slight or letdown is neither realistic nor fair; it sends the message that we expect the other person to be flawless in relationship. But no one is perfect, and no one relationship can ever meet all our needs.
- Bend
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- Nov 07, 2020
Teaching girls to agitate over every problem implies that relationships, and people, can bend to our will.
- Girl
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- Nov 07, 2020
Sometimes true girl power means accepting that we are actually vulnerable and even powerless - then figuring out how to adapt and have our needs met in other ways.
- Most
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- Nov 07, 2020
Sadness, irritability, fatigue, and distractedness are among the most common side effects of grief while parenting.
- Children
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- Nov 07, 2020
Parents are teachers as much as caregivers, and our children learn to navigate life's challenges by watching us. Kids can get a road map for how to handle painful emotions.
- Control
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- Nov 07, 2020
If parents shield their children from real feelings, kids falsely imagine their parents are in constant control of themselves - and may try to emulate them.
- Nov 07, 2020
When your child believes you really respect what he's feeling, he'll be much more likely to trust you.
- Experience
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- Nov 07, 2020
We learn best when we're intrinsically motivated - that is, when we try something new for the sheer enjoyment of the experience.
- Learning
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- Nov 07, 2020
Intrinsic motivation is one of learning's most precious resources. It bolsters us to stick out the tough moments of a challenge and pursue what we love to do.
- Confidence
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- Nov 07, 2020
Failing well is a skill. Letting girls do it gives them critical practice coping with a negative experience. It also gives them the opportunity to develop a kind of confidence and resilience that can only be forged in times of challenge.
- Me
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- Nov 07, 2020
Somebody once told me I treated my smart phone like Wilson, the volleyball Tom Hanks turns into a friend when he's stranded on a desert island in that movie 'Castaway.' It's an apt comparison: parenting a toddler occasionally feels like being marooned, and your phone is your only connection to the rest of the world.
- Depression
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- Nov 07, 2020
If smart phones had been around for women in the 1950s, 'The Feminine Mystique' might never have been written. The depression and ennui of housewives would have been blunted by Pinterest and Facebook.
- Captivating
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- Nov 07, 2020
Girls may love movies about fairytale princes, but their most captivating romance is with their friends.
- Friendship
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- Nov 07, 2020
A healthy friendship is one where you share your true feelings without fearing the end of the relationship. It's also one where you sometimes have to let things that bug you slide. The tough moments will make you wiser about yourself and each other. They will also make you stronger and closer as friends.
- Forever
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- Nov 07, 2020
Just like people date and break up, friends break up, too. 'Best friends forever' rarely ever happens; it's just that no one talks about it.
- Friendship
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- Nov 07, 2020
There are times in every friendship when you or your friend are too busy to call or are more focused on other relationships. It will hurt, but it's rarely personal. Making it personal usually makes things worse, and being too clingy or demanding can drive a friend even further away. Like people, friendships can get 'overworked' and need to rest.
- Good
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- Nov 07, 2020
Secrecy is hardly new on Planet Girl: as many an eye-rolling boy will tell you, girls excel at eluding the prying questions of grown ups. And who can blame them? From an early age, young women learn that to be a 'good girl,' they must be nice, avoid conflict, and make friends with everyone.
- Different
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- Nov 07, 2020
Before I became a parent, I was a bestselling author and speaker pounding up the escalators of a different airport every week.
- Culture
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- Nov 07, 2020
In our million-mile-an-hour culture of never enough, working less is interpreted as working less well. This isn't always the case.
- Feel
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- Nov 07, 2020
Launching a kid into college is about more than having the money to pay for it. Parents invest so much of their time and identities in the process that it can feel like a part time job. For many parents, the college your child ends up attending becomes a parenting grade.
- Failure
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- Nov 07, 2020
I run skills-building programs focused on healthy risk taking, failure resilience, and self-care for undergraduates around the country.
- Opportunity
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- Nov 07, 2020
You can give them the opportunity to thrive, but when it comes to finding happiness or success, kids are really on their own.
- Life
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- Nov 07, 2020
Taking full advantage of all that college offers can be tough for teens facing a major life transition under pressure to perform. Perhaps we should all lower our expectations and let kids find their way.
- End
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- Nov 07, 2020
If we want to end a culture rampant with harassment, we must listen to the adult women who are speaking out courageously. We must also make room for girls to speak: If we listened, we'd find that many middle schoolers are trying to tell us, 'Me too.'
- Life
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- Nov 07, 2020
I was a single mom by choice at 37, and if my love life hadn't quite panned out, most everything else had. I was a classic 'amazing girl' - driven, social, and relentlessly well-rounded - reveling in the fruits of post-Title IX America: an all-metro athlete in high school, Rhodes Scholar at 24, best-selling author by 27.
- Fruitless
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- Nov 07, 2020
I've spent years in therapy excavating my endless, often fruitless drive to overachieve. I have learned that being successful hasn't made me happy. It's just made me successful. I even call myself a recovering overachiever.
- Me
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- Nov 07, 2020
Having a baby on my own is a dream come true, but in my world, there's no sheepish spouse on his way home from a work trip to offer me a stretch of alone time.
- Life
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- Nov 07, 2020
Whether you chose a passive-aggressive husband, workaholic wife, or life of single motherhood, we are all officially allowed - and uniquely qualified - to critique our own life experience. Please don't pretend you're living mine.
- Cares
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- Nov 07, 2020
Ours is not a culture that cares much for the work of care.
- Me
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- Nov 07, 2020
If you want to stand with me as a single mom - and I know so many of my friends and colleagues do - please don't appropriate my burden as a way to validate your own. To suggest that you are single-parenting when you are simply solo for the weekend devalues what real single mothers do.
- Long
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- Nov 07, 2020
No matter how much you urge them to relax and how much you mean it, your child probably grapples with highly stressful environments away from home, whether it's where they go to school, the teams they play on, or the peers in their social circle. Most teenagers I know long for empathy from their parents about their struggle.
- End Of The Day
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- Nov 07, 2020
At the end of the day, most parents have more in common with their teens than they realize. Let's retire the bootstrap mentality and stop telling our teens that their stress is self-imposed.
- Hair
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- Nov 07, 2020
Many of us endure pain in the service of beauty every single day. We rip off our hair with hot wax, jam our soft skin into modern-day corsets, and burn our scalps with dyes.
- Only
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- Nov 07, 2020
Girls must understand not only their moral obligation but their power to be allies to each other at parties and other potentially unsafe spaces for girls.
- Childhood
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- Nov 07, 2020
From childhood to adolescence, girls face mixed messages about displaying power and authority.
- Deserve
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- Nov 07, 2020
Isn't prom just a fun dance that hardworking students deserve? Sure, but it's also an event where girls internalize damaging cultural messages.
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- Nov 07, 2020
Prom culture is now painstakingly documented on sites such as Instagram and Facebook, exacerbating the angst of the uninvited.
- Night
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- Nov 07, 2020
When I went to prom in the early 1990s, I seesawed between my wish to get asked by the right guy and ride in the cool kids' limousine with the burgeoning realization that I was gay. I had a fun night, but I was far from my authentic, assertive self that night. Prom felt mostly like a job I had to do to maintain my position in the social hierarchy.
- Defer
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- Nov 07, 2020
To defer to someone else's definition of a life well-lived is a Faustian bargain.
- Hard Work
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- Nov 07, 2020
In the so-called age of girl power, we have failed to cut loose our most regressive standards of female success - like pleasing others and looking sexy - and to replace them with something more progressive - like valuing intelligence and hard work.
- Humanity
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- Nov 07, 2020
Self-compassion encourages mindfulness, or noticing your feelings without judgment; self-kindness, or talking to yourself in a soothing way; and common humanity, or thinking about how others might be suffering similarly.
- Children
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- Nov 07, 2020
To teach their children how to show themselves grace in the face of a challenge, I coach parents to model self-compassion in the face of everyday setbacks.
- May
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- Nov 07, 2020
If more students use self-compassion to reframe their failures, they may discover more nourishing sources of motivation and healthier strategies to pursue their goals.
- Children
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- Nov 07, 2020
The Internet has transformed the landscape of children's social lives, moving cliques from lunchrooms and lockers to live chats and online bulletin boards and intensifying their reach and power.
- Gray
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- Nov 07, 2020
The Internet foments outrageous behavior in part because it is a 'gray area' for social interactions.
- Home
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- Nov 07, 2020
Most parents would not hesitate to assume responsibility for their child's behavior on a playground, at school, or in someone else's home. What happens online should be no different. Parents should talk with their children about computer ethics, stipulate rules of conduct, and - most importantly - establish consequences.
- Internet
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- Nov 07, 2020
Classroom teachers can play an active role in instructing children about appropriate conduct online, even where there is no school policy on the issue. By promoting public discussion about their lives on the Internet, teachers and students can work together to share advice and develop 'rules to type by' or similar Internet-minded guidance.
- Family
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- Nov 07, 2020
When I did the original research for 'Odd Girl Out,' I asked every bullied girl I interviewed to tell me what she needed most from her family. The answer truly surprised me. It wasn't having the best solutions, calling the school, or trying to act like everything was okay. It was empathy.
- Daughter
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- Nov 07, 2020
Empathy isn't the same thing as expressing emotions. It's not about sharing your feelings - it can be really uncomfortable if a parent cries or loses strength at the moment her daughter needs it most. The message sent is that you need to be taken care of, not the other way around.
- Good
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- Nov 07, 2020
Many girls aspire to a version of selfhood that puts a psychological glass ceiling on their potential to succeed. They suffer from what I call the Curse of the Good Girl: the pressure to be liked by everyone, generous to a fault, and flawless at everything you do.
- Girl
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- Nov 07, 2020
A girl's social networking profile is a persona she constructs, a photoshopped billboard on the information superhighway. It also offers a salve for the anxiety so many girls feel about relationships, providing the answers to burning social questions like, What do other people think of me? Do people like me? Am I normal? Am I popular? Am I cool?
- Crippling
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- Nov 07, 2020
For the self-conscious or insecure girl, technology can become a crippling addiction, an insatiable hunger not just for connection but the elusive promise of being liked by everyone.
- Experience
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- Nov 07, 2020
My experience is that aggression is a universal trait in human beings - girls feel it in any sort of environment, same-sex or co-ed.
- Happiness
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- Nov 07, 2020
I come from a family where happiness was seen as an 'extra,' a kind of frill to life - nice to have, but certainly not necessary and by no means paramount. Work was king. Suffering meant you were working hard. It made you worthy.
- I Am
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- Nov 07, 2020
I am a recovering rat racer.
- Love
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- Nov 07, 2020
All around me, I see girls forced to become rat racers in the College Application Industrial Complex, the subculture where students must craft themselves into the perfect specimens for college admission and often lose their authenticity, love of learning, and sense of self in the process.
- Happiness
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- Nov 07, 2020
Happiness doesn't just happen. It must be pursued. And if the pursuit of the 'ultimate currency' of happiness helps us choose occupations that confer present and future benefit, and these choices, in turn, motivate us to succeed, this strikes me as perhaps the most powerful non-cognitive skill of all.
- Good
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- Nov 07, 2020
As girls grow up and download what it means to be a culturally acceptable 'good girl,' they learn to please others at the expense of themselves. They worry about protecting relationships - and what people think of them - at all costs.
- Our
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- Nov 07, 2020
It's not easy to let our kids be less than perfect.
- Opinion
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- Nov 07, 2020
Classroom discussion is where you learn how to debate an idea and stick with an opinion, even when others don't agree - and not take it personally, either.
- Good
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- Nov 07, 2020
You might be thinking that some people are just naturally good at speaking up, and others just aren't - game over. Not true. Speaking up is a skill that you have to learn like any other, whether it's speaking Spanish or doing calculus or changing a tire.
- Important
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- Nov 07, 2020
Teasing is often healthy and fun, not to mention an important part of interpersonal and individual development. But when it's abused, 'just kidding' contains a disturbing logic: If I didn't mean it, it didn't happen.
- Nasty
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- Nov 07, 2020
Girls who use jokes to be nasty are often hiding other feelings they are struggling to express.
- Jealous
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- Nov 07, 2020
Feeling jealous doesn't make you a terrible person.
- Doing
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- Nov 07, 2020
Our friends are barometers of our own lives: We look to our BFFs to better understand how we're doing ourselves. Our friends help us make sense of what we have, what we aspire to, and what we truly long for.
- Moment
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- Nov 07, 2020
Oversharing online can make you feel connected to someone in the moment, but when the moment is over, the only thing that has really changed is that you just gave a piece of yourself away.
- Genuine
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- Nov 07, 2020
There are no shortcuts to genuine friendship. Relationships are built over time.
- Scholarship
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- Nov 07, 2020
When I was 24, I won a Rhodes Scholarship.
- Graduate School
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- Nov 07, 2020
I realized that I wanted a Rhodes Scholarship, not because I wanted to go to graduate school but because I wanted to win a famous award. Quitting forced me to realize I was on the wrong track and that I had lost touch with who I was and what I cared about.
- Nov 07, 2020
Self-knowledge is the foundation of real success.
- Person
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- Nov 07, 2020
Small changes lead to big ones. But big changes - trying to become a different person overnight - usually lead to defeat.
- Nov 07, 2020
Real body satisfaction starts when you learn to see yourself for more than your weight.
- Nov 07, 2020